He is in his mid-20s and says taking drugs calms his anxiety, but he is very unhappy and even tells me he doesn’t want to live anymore
I have a 25-year-old son, the younger of two. I believe he is addicted to cannabis, which he says he needs to combat his anxiety. He doesn’t work and has episodes of rage. I help him as much as I can financially without physically handing him cash. When I can’t help him, he turns on me. He threatens me, saying things such as: “I don’t want to live any more,” which keeps me awake at night. I feel so sad and scared to enjoy myself because he is so unhappy. I am at a loss. I just don’t know what to do.
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